Safety Tips

 

Take your time:
Watch out for womyn who seem too good to be true. Begin by communicating solely via SheDate.com messenger or email, then look for strange behavior or inconsistencies. The person at the other end may not be who or what she says. Trust your feelings. If anything makes you uncomfortable, walk away for your own safety and protection.

 

Protect your anonymity:
All correspondence between SheDate.com members is electronically protected, ensuring your true identity does not appear until you choose to reveal it. Never include your last name, email address, home address, phone number, place of business or any other identifying information in your free profile or initial messages. When corresponding with another SheDate.com member, turn off your email signature file. Stop communicating with anyone who pressures you for personal information or attempts in any way to fool you into revealing it.

 

Caution and Common Sense:
Careful, thoughtful decisions generally yield better lesbian dating results. Guard against trusting the untrustworthy; suitors must earn your trust gradually, through consistently honorable, forthright behavior. Take all the time you need to test for a trustworthy person and pay careful attention along the way. If you suspect someone is lying, she probably is, so act accordingly. Be responsible about romance, and don't fall in love at the click of a mouse. Don't become prematurely intimate with someone, even if that intimacy only occurs online. If you mutually decide to cross the point of no return, be smart and protect yourself. The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention provide some of the most current information available about (STD’s) sexually transmitted diseases and preserving your health.

 

Ask for a photo:
A photo will give you a good idea of what the person looks like, which may prove helpful in achieving a gut feeling. In fact, it's best to view several images of someone in various settings: casual, formal, indoor and outdoors. If all you hear are excuses about why you can't see a photo, consider that she has something to hide. Look for cues that suggest that the photos aren’t theirs or are extremely dated.

 

Talk on the Phone:
A phone call can reveal much about a person's communication and social skills. Consider your security and do not reveal your personal phone number to a stranger. Try a prepaid cell phone number instead or use local telephone blocking techniques like *67 to prevent your phone number from appearing in Caller ID. Only furnish your phone number when you feel completely comfortable.

 

Meet when you are sure:
The key benefit of meeting a woman and relating online is that you can collect information gradually, later deciding whether to pursue the relationship in the offline world. You never are obligated to meet anyone, regardless of your level of online intimacy. And even if you decide to arrange a meeting, you always have the right to change your mind. It's possible that your decision to keep the relationship at the anonymous level is based on a hunch that you can't logically explain. Trust yourself. Go with your instincts.

 

Watch for Warning Signs:  
Pay attention to red flags like displays of anger, intense frustration or attempts to pressure or control you. Acting in a passive-aggressive manner, making demeaning or disrespectful comments or any physically inappropriate behavior are all red flags as well. You should be concerned if your date exhibits any of the following behavior without providing an acceptable explanation:

·         Provides inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession, employment, etc.

·         Refuses to speak to you by phone after establishing extended, online intimacy.

·         Fails to provide direct answers to direct questions.

·         Appears significantly different in person from his or her online persona.

·         Never introduces you to friends, professional associates or family members.

 

Meet in a familiar and safe place:
When you choose to meet your lesbian or bisexual woman offline, always tell a friend where you are going and when you will return. Leave your date's name and telephone number with your friend. Never arrange for your date to pick you up at home. Provide your own transportation, meet her in a public place at a time with many people around, and when the date is over, leave on your own as well. A familiar restaurant or coffee shop, at a time when a lot of other people will be present, is often a fine choice. If you decide to move to another location, take your own transportation. When the timing is appropriate, thank her for getting together and say your goodbyes.

 

Be Extra Cautious When Traveling:
If you are flying in from another city, make your own car and hotel arrangements. Do not disclose the name of your hotel and never allow your date to make the arrangements for you. Rent a car at the airport and drive directly to your hotel. Call your date from the hotel or meet at the location you have already agreed to. If the location seems inappropriate or unsafe, go back to your hotel. Try to contact your date at that location or leave a message on a home machine. Always make sure a friend or family member knows your plans and has your contact details. And if possible, carry a cell phone at all times.

 

Get yourself out of Trouble:

      Never do anything you feel unsure about. If you are in any way afraid of your date, use your best judgment to diffuse the situation and get out of there. Excuse yourself long enough to phone a friend for advice, ask someone else on the scene for help or slip out the back door and drive away. If you feel you are in danger, call the police; it's always better to be safe than sorry. Never worry or feel embarrassed about your behavior; your safety is much more important than one person's opinion of you.

You can find liars anywhere, in nightclubs and bookstores, cocktail parties or even sitting across from you at your local café. Regardless of where you meet a woman, lesbian dating is never a risk-free activity, but a little caution will reduce your risk in matters of the heart.